Technically, it’s not the end of the decade – that would be December 31, 2020.
However, it is the end of a phenomenal year. And as is customary, this is the time when we sit back and ponder just how well the year went. We weigh it on a scale of 1-10. Sometimes we say a prayer of gratitude. Other times we draw up a wishlist.
Today, I’m doing a bit of both.
They say if wishes were horses, we’d all be cowboys.
Well then, howdy partner! Well, let’s go on a ride shall we?
Wish I had long flowing hair, so I could whip it around anytime I feel self conscious.
This would be way cooler than playing with my beard all the time.
Wish I was still 17. Basically, I wouldn’t mind if I was infected with the Peter Pan syndrome. 17 was the best age of my life – I was just about to get into school, just before learning I’d never become an aeronautic engineer. An entire world of possibilities lay before me and for a brief moment, I believed anything could be possible. 17 would always be the perfect age, boosted by good old nostalgia.
Wish I could write as good as Stephen King. Everything he writes is gold. I’ve been reading his books for years and his works inspired me to take on writing as a career. His skill with words and his storytelling powers constantly relay the human condition in excruciatingly deep ways.
Wish I could meet Stephen King. Yes, so I can express my fandom and embarrass myself to the full. I would love to let him know he inspired me to make writing a career even though I feel I sold out on the purist dream. Somehow, I think he’d tell me that I didn’t. Because today writing does pay a lot of my bills and takes care of my family.
Wish I’d just find dear future wife and get it over with. Met a lot of people in 2019 even as we’re still on the search for the future Missus Taiwo.
They say dating is an extreme sport. I didn’t realize how extreme till I gave it a shot.
Because my friends are worried I’m going to end up in a monastery, some of them decided to take matters into their own hands, introducing me to their network of single friends, subtly and not so subtly.
Let me just say, there are some very weird, unique and crazy people out there. A lot of crazies actually.
I guess if you asked the ladies too, the feeling would be mutual.
Would have shared some stories about these blind dates, matchmaking attempts and stuff but… I’m just gonna let this bad memory remain behind in 2019, thank you very much.
There’s a longer wishlist in my notepad and I’ll share them with you some other day.
One thing I couldn’t wish for was a better year. 2019 was near perfect in so many ways.
Our family got bigger cos my brother got married!
It was a physically and emotionally demanding experience and I wasn’t even the one getting hitched. The drama alone from the two days would be material for a novella (still toying with the idea but I’m not promising anything).
Another fun development – Some of my closest pals also got married! This came packaged also with its share of drama (I really should do a novella about these things). But it was also relieving and thrilling in equal measure.
I got THREE (yes 3!) cakes on my birthday. Seeing as cakes are one the best man made discoveries of all time that will eventually save us all, I’ve categorised this under birthday miracles I’ll never forget.
This year, I traveled a lot and slept in a lot of hotels. Have I ever told you how much I love hotels? I just need to figure out how to turn this into a day job so I can retire and do this everyday.
Changed my church, finally. This was a long-time coming anyway and all I can say is “Wow!”.
They say the cure for loneliness is finding your tribe, a group of like-minded souls. I found that this year. The joy of being in a place that seems customised for you.Constantly being surrounded by a community of Godchasers, people who are equally passionate about God and relentless in their pursuit of knowing Him.
It’s the biggest blessing of 2019.
It rocked my world in a great way.
Got promoted, again! At some point, I think I became pretty good at this communications thing (or at least faking it as best as I could) because I’ve just been given an entire department to lead. I got a team working with me and I’m responsible for their performance, output and everything.
As someone who’s nervous about taking on leadership roles, this was a fish out of water situation for me. I had to not only think about the work I was doing, but also teach, mentor and supervise new team members. And they joined right in the busiest season of the work year for my department.
They say if it doesn’t kill you, then it makes you stronger. Well, I say, if it didnt kill you, that’s because it didn’t do a good enough job.
This new promotion nearly killed me. I was so overwhelmed at one point, I started having trouble sleeping at night (I’ve never had trouble sleeping at any time of the day).
Notwithstanding, I kept learning, kept adjusting and kept trying new things. I think the department settled into a good rhythm just before the year ended. I’m definitely looking forward to get back to the office and trying some new techniques. Yeah, I’m, still excited about work. Imagine that!
Speaking of the new year, some of the things I’ve got planned include…
To be honest, I don’t know yet. This yearly calendar rarely works for me. And I already talked about how delusional it is to do new year resolutions in a previous post.
Rather, I’m more of a if you want to start, start right away kind of person.
If you are running a personal race, on a personal timetable, then it’s only reasonable you have a personal calendar.
For example, I actively started saving judicially in June. People say that you should save no matter how small. And I agree with this, mentally. However, translating this into reality is harder cos…
I could have put it off till next year but what good would that do?
Anyways, saving and budgeting, ✅.
Next: My career. My career may be taking off but as they say, something has to give. The “give” came in the form of my hobbies. I did not do enough of what I love doing in my leisure time this year. That includes reading and writing. I also didn’t learn anything new (officially) ie. Speaking about certifications, courses etc.
I consider this alarming. What I found myself doing was learning just enough to be functional in a role.
Need to change all that in 2020.
Basically “hustle philosophy” cheated me this year. Hustle philosophy, the idea that as a 21st century knowledge worker, you have to constantly be on, plugged in, working, making money, building something etc.
Well, not anymore.
I’ve never really consciously bought into the idea but with growing teams, deadlines and a long commute, it just sort of crept up on me.
I closed the year early, (went on break about 2 weeks to Christmas) and used the time to rest, reflect, connect with friends and family and really do “me” things.
Talk about an adrenaline shot!
I feel more buzzed, more switched on, more creative and more energetic than I’ve felt all year.
So in 2020, I’m going crack this work-life balance thing.
I’m going to figure out how to use the actual 9-5 time to get stuff done. And then I’m done with work. The remaining time is for “me” things.
Life is for the living. Let’s do some living in 2020.
Oh, I nearly forgot. I have one more wish.
I wish you a fulfilling new year, filled with love and warmth.
Thanks for reading!